This is not the path I wanted for my life. It is the path I choose. For example, I don’t have any children. I’m not going to get into semantics but just to maintain full-disclosure: I haven’t seen my daughter since she was five. She is twenty-two now (but I’ve talked about that elsewhere and… [Read more…]
March 10, 2012
I’ve been looking for these. I guess I have to try these all until I come to the right fit.
December 9, 2011
For a father there are little moments of unadulterated terror. For teen fathers it is all terror – at least for me. You see the life you imagined dissolving into the life you’ve chosen. I’m not complaining – my daughter was the single best gift of my life – but the reality is nothing can… [Read more…]
December 3, 2011
I’m exhausted: physically, mentally and emotionally. And truthfully, that is not a bad thing. What is keeping me going is a spiritual experience I’ve been embracing. I know corny. Especially considering that I’m agnostic. Probably….I think. Which, if you’ve been paying attention at all, is consistent with most of my life: a belief in something greater than myself and… [Read more…]
November 29, 2011
Critical people are a bane on my life. A poison to my soul. Am I being critical? Does that make me a hypocrite? I don’t mean pragmatists. You can be a pragmatist and not be critical. I myself am a pragmatist with borderline optimistic tendencies. No. I’m talking about the critics in my life. The negative.… [Read more…]
June 9, 2011
Recently, I started an attempt to renegotiate the reality of my past in order to create a more authentic future. Most of you probably have a history of negotiating successful, open loving relationships in a more traditional mold. I haven’t, and as a result, many of the things others take for granted, I am forced… [Read more…]
May 26, 2011
Yesterday, I was criticized. It wasn’t even constructive. It is not a surprise actually. Everyone has critics in life: people who look and judge and tell you what you do wrong or what you can do better (or how they would do it better). People who respond with a simple “suck it up” or “buck up” or “shut… [Read more…]
April 24, 2011
The problem with being an emotional hoarder is that you never throw anything away. Which is after all, the definition of a person who hordes. Pretty soon there isn’t room for anything new because the old is crowding up the place. There isn’t room for new events, memories, people or opportunities. It is just like… [Read more…]
April 24, 2011
Everyone carries something: a wallet, car keys, pictures of children, spouses or their dog. Cell phone, MP3 player, credit cards, a purse and cash. Lipstick, condoms, mouthwash, floss or a toothbrush. Some people carry all of those things. I’m a material minimalist. I carry a clip that holds my driver’s license, insurance card, debit card, library… [Read more…]
March 27, 2011
We all come in small and in need of protection. Mentoring and parenting determines if we grow into a strong oak or crabgrass. The irony is society hews the strongest oaks for entertainment or protection. Crab grass comes back every year regardless of how much poison we use. Crabgrass is more resilient. I have too… [Read more…]
March 11, 2012
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